You Will Never Feel Like It
It’s not about what you feel like. Your brain is always going to do what is easy. It is always going to want to take the easy route.
It will always chose the least minimum effort required.
That’s why we need deadlines set by work, set by life, set by others to give us that motivation to do things which we wouldn’t do.
I didn’t want to write this. I didn’t feel like it.
You are never going to feel like it.
I was waiting one day at a time, maybe that day I will feel like it.
Heres the thing, your brain doesn’t like doing things it has never done before. If it can, it will avoid those things like the plague. Even if those things are good for you.
Your brain hates new stuff. It just wants to rest easy in what it already knows.
The good news though, is that you can trick yourself into doing what is good for you.
Reduce Distractions. Meditate. Feel good.
Sometimes we start doing something and it is really not what we want to do. Then, after some time we get into the activity.
So what are we doing it for?
There will be a time when you write something you are proud of. When the words just come out perfectly and that time spent will have been worth it. There will be a time on the dance floor when it just feels amazing and you connect with your partner on another level. There will be a time when you have an amazing conversation. When you finish the job perfectly. When you land the sale. These are the rewards for your efforts.
These rewards are long-term though. In a world where we are used to and chase short term, quick pleasures we no longer remember the meaning of something worth working for. We no longer recognize that value in working for those long-term, far-off rewards.
This was something that people knew a few years ago. You keep and keep going because you know the reward is there.
The problem is, these days, most of us seek those dopamine hits just to feel good in any sort of way at all. We seek the reward just to feel OK.
First, we need to work out a way to be ‘OK’ without the short-term hits. Second, we need to eliminate or reduce those short-term rewards.
In that stare of already feeling good and not having short-term rewards readily at our disposal, we will naturally become more long-term focused. Being long-term focused is how our brains were wired.
Without the constant distraction and reward of social media you may find yourself lost in an activity and one day being proud of something that you made. That pride will keep you going. That reward is sweet. It is sweeter than anything else.
